13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Avoid and Instill Strong Habits in Their Children

13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Avoid and Instill Strong Habits in Their Children

13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Shouldn't Do

Mentally strong parents manage to regulate their emotions and remain mindful of their thoughts. Although easier said than done, this approach to parenting can help you avoid passing on your own bad habits to your children.

According to psychotherapist Amy Morin, there are 13 things mentally strong parents shouldn't do.

1. Endorsing a victim mentality

Help your child recognize that rejection and failure are everyday events. By focusing on how they can take positive action rather than feeling sorry for themselves, they will avoid feeling like a victim.

2. Parent out of guilt

When parents act out of guilt, they give themselves permission to take the easier route. Often the right decision leads to feelings of guilt. Let your children see that it is okay to feel guilty and they will learn to make better decisions.

3. Make your children the center of the universe

Don't let your children feel like they are entitled to everything. Teach them that they have something to offer the world instead of thinking they are entitled to something.

4. Let fear guide you

Courage enables people to do things they find unpleasant. Avoid instilling fear in your children so that they are better able to make more fulfilling decisions.

5. Give your children power over you

By giving your child everything they want at the expense of themselves and others, you are teaching them that they are in charge. It also deprives them of the opportunity to learn life lessons like taking orders and knowing that you don't always get what you want.

6. Expect perfection

Encouraging success is good, but expecting your child to be perfect is not. Children need to know that they don't have to be perfect. Instead, they should learn to do their best and become the best person without feeling like they always have to compete with others.

7. Let your children avoid responsibility

Children must do their part. This teaches them responsibility. If you do everything for them, they will not learn the importance of being a responsible citizen.

8. Protect your children from pain

If your child is hurt, you suffer with him. Unfortunately, this is part of life. They need your support and guidance to learn how to manage pain, not your protection from it.

9. Feeling responsible for their children's feelings

Teaching your children how to manage their emotions allows them independence. It shows them that they can improve themselves and deal with anger, sadness or fear.

10. Stop your children from making mistakes

Children need to make mistakes in order to learn how to correct them. They also learn from their mistakes when faced with the consequences of their actions.

11. Confusing discipline with punishment

Instead of focusing on punishment so that your children are afraid of your anger, focus on how to discipline them so that they want to behave well. A child who is afraid is not as strong as a child who has learned to make the right decisions.

12. Take shortcuts to avoid inconvenience

If you give in, you are teaching your child bad habits. Be consistent and teach them that a no is a no. It may be easier for you to avoid their tantrums, but you want to teach them that tantrums don't work. This teaches perseverance.

13. Losing sight of your values

Make sure you pass on the things that are most important to you in life to your children. By doing so, you will help them build their own values ​​and lead a meaningful life.

As a mother of two, I can confirm that avoiding these 'taboos' has worked for me. Having said that, I also think that mentally strong parents need to use their parental intuition and knowledge of our children to raise mentally strong children.