Anger basics – understanding it, respecting it and releasing it responsibly

Anger basics – understanding it, respecting it and releasing it responsibly

By far the most commonly experienced human emotion is anger. As irritation or annoyance, anger is often expressed with tacit or open approval, even social acceptance. Anger and rage are, of course, less socially acceptable. Resentment and frustration are commonplace. So anger, toxic as it is, has a place in the social environment because it is understood and forgivable and because it represents a human failing that is considered morally acceptable as long as it does not get too out of control.

But what do we need to know about anger? How can we heal from this? Why are its negative effects so strong?

First, let's understand a basic point. Anger is usually a lid on a deeper emotion. For example, when you are deeply grieving, anger is more easily perceived as a distraction. When you are overwhelmed by an emotional conflict that is challenging to express and fills you with uncertainty and vulnerability, anger may be chosen as a viable replacement emotion.

Second, although we pay lip service to its social acceptance, no one really likes anger. So it remains repressed and confused with aggression and anger, which are completely different experiences.

Third, anger is toxic and bad for you, while releasing anger in the form of catharsis is not. This is because held anger is energy that has to go somewhere; it must take form, usually in the unconscious world and/or in the physical organism.

So what can we do about anger?

To understand anger as a cover for a deeper emotion, we must become familiar with our inner world. Our emotions must not be a secret from us and we must not always hide them from others. As we work our way down through layers of experience on mental, physical and emotional levels as a daily practice, we can begin to become familiar with our inner lives and benefit from a growing awareness of ourselves.

To deal with social rejection of true anger, we must differentiate between feeling or experiencing anger and releasing or expressing anger. Then we are able to make responsible decisions about how we deal with anger. Playing tennis or squash, chopping wood, running, and walking vigorously are all effective ways to release anger.

A few more things to “get”: One,accept the anger within you. It's not unnatural; We are not all saints and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Focus on dealing with it intelligently and understanding it deeply.

Second, anger, like fear and pain, are emotional tones and expressions and experiences of your entire energy system. It is important that youTreat primary emotions such as anger, fear, distress, and pain with respectand honor it as part of the human experience of being healthy in mind, body and spirit.

Three,cultivate gentleness and humility; Be less reactive and self-obsessed. Angry behavior is like other emotionally conditioned behavior: it is learned. Breaking the habit cannot be overestimated. So identify your triggers, become aware of what makes you angry, and then protect yourself from them by challenging yourself to respond more gently.

Finally, psychotherapy and counseling are the specialized approaches that address anger patterns and the sources of anger behavior. Even if you go to therapy or counseling for just a short time, you can learn enough to change your life if anger is a problem for you.

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