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Red Flag Instincts in Relationships – 3 Tips to Activate Your Self-Preservative Instincts When Dating
We all grow up with an innate instinct for self-preservation. As we develop and mature, we become more aware of potential threats to our emotional and spiritual as well as physical well-being. Unfortunately, we also sometimes learn to talk ourselves out of acting on our instincts, and that can hurt us in relationships. If you've ended up in an emotionally abusive or otherwise toxic relationship, your instincts may be chronically activated, causing you to ignore feelings of alarm, discomfort, or excitement that arise. When considering a potential romantic partner, it's important to be as familiar as possible with your instinctive reaction to the...
Red Flag Instincts in Relationships – 3 Tips to Activate Your Self-Preservative Instincts When Dating
We all grow up with an innate instinct for self-preservation. As we develop and mature, we become more aware of potential threats to our emotional and spiritual as well as physical well-being. Unfortunately, we also sometimes learn to talk ourselves out of acting on our instincts, and that can hurt us in relationships. If you've ended up in an emotionally abusive or otherwise toxic relationship, your instincts may be chronically activated, causing you to ignore feelings of alarm, discomfort, or excitement that arise. When considering a potential romantic partner, it's important to be as in tune as possible with your instinctive reaction to the red flag. Here are 3 tips for reactivating your instincts in dating relationships:
1. Take care of yourself physically. The more you begin to get in touch with your physical self, the better you will be able to read its messages. Eat right and focus on organic and unprocessed foods whenever possible. Take vitamins and supplements as needed. A naturopath can create a specific supplement plan tailored to your health needs. Many people can benefit from a fish oil and food-based multivitamin. Adopt a doctor-approved exercise program that ideally includes cardiovascular exercises that cause endorphin release and elevate your mood.
2. Begin to become more aware of how your body reacts to different people and situations. Pay attention to when you get tense and excited and when your adrenaline kicks in. Watch for a sinking feeling in your stomach or a feeling of shame or helplessness. Also note the instances when you feel relaxed, peaceful, and safe. When you meet someone and start dating, pay close attention to how you react. Remember that fear can sometimes be interpreted by the body as excitement, so be careful with this type of “attraction.”
3. Begin applying this awareness to your interactions with others. Move toward situations and people that give you positive reactions of security and relaxation, and move away from relationships that cause negative or unpleasant physical reactions. A certain amount of nervousness when dating is normal - but be aware of your own "performance anxiety" and what reactions are triggered by your date's behavior or personality.